I work with a colleague who is senior to me but not my line manager. When I began my job my direct manager (let’s call them B) and this colleague (let’s call them P) hated each other. P was quite ineffective at the job, fragile, irrational and agitated and it was allegedly all down to abullying from B. There were a lot of complaints about P though, and loads of people left and those who stayed still dislike P a lot.
B eventually left under a cloud of shame and P seemed to pull themselves together under our new manager. It was a positive new start and I was happy to support P. Unfortunately due to P’s inability to actually get their shit together I have been carrying P to ensure things run smoothly. I’ve been a huge asset and saved P’s ass multiple times. I do not expect a thank you but I would like respect.
Roll on a year or so and P has gone straight back to the exact same unbearable behaviours and this time it cannot be B as the excuse. This time they are taking out all of their rage and frustrations on me. I have told my current manager about some of the behaviour (but not full disclosure) because it was concerning me for the impact it has on everyone else too. This has made P much much worse, P is now paranoid about trust and betrayal. P now is trying to cut me out of all sorts of things and giving me orders, being rude, putting me down and menial jobs and generally being a huge dick. I have been nothing but supportive but I also cannot stand back and watch P do these things because non of them are in our company or colleague best interests let alone mine.
P turns every discussion or meeting back to how hard things are for P, how badly they are treated and how unfair everything is.
I want to be truly honest about P with someone but I worry it will ruin my chances of promotion and if nothing is done, I still have to work with P. My manager actually gives me directions to effectively monitor and remind P to do things. I want to stop carrying P’s whingy backside and let them fail - but this is unfair on everyone who it will affect in turn.
Short edit: everyone hates P, they are terrible at their job, horrible to everyone, self obsessed but nothing seems to get done about it because P claims bullying. P has some kind of mental health issues IMO
Do I just learn how to manage P? I try not to let them get to me too much. I don’t want to have to leave my job either I am good at it and love it!
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Whyisit · 16/05/2018 00:44
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