Been offered a new job...and I'm scared

[clarkyclarkson]

Hi there. I've been offered a great new job. Full time, (currently in part time work so the extra money will be great) team seem lovely, close to where I live, but I am so scared to accept it. I have a pattern in the past of taking on jobs and never seeing them through, quitting after a month because I just have no confidence in myself. I feel I get jobs because I've fluked the interview and I'll end up failing miserably. Because of these self doubt issues I tend to just stick to part time jobs such as cleaning, because I know I can't fail at scrubbing toilets and vacuuming. Does anyone else feel like this? I'm just so so scared to take yet another job, hate it and then quit and be back at square one :-(

I would love to hear some words of wisdom or if anyone can relate. Just feel abit lost and down with it all.

Thanks ladies x

[hevonbu]

You wouldn't quit like that this time since you're aware of the problem. Maybe you could seek counseling just a few sessions in the beginning so you have someone objective to talk to and discuss with when things feel frustrating?

[Nanodust]

I recognise how you are feeling, have you heard of imposter syndrome? You are likely to do a fantastic job as they have recognised your ability and potential and offered you this great opportunity.

Maybe think about project ‘you’ and how you can build your own personal self-esteem. I am trying to do this at the moment. I recommend the book Overcoming Low Self-Esteem 2nd edition by Melanie Fennel.

Take the job and be kind to yourself, you can do this!

[clarkyclarkson]

Thank you so much for your replies, it does mean a lot. I think it's the failing at it I am most afraid of. I don't deal well with change! I do see a therapist currently so it's defiantly something I can discuss with her.

[Nanodust]

We all fail and sometimes no one even notices! Also not being great or getting it right all of the time is a good things- let’s everyone know you are human! Also you are more likely to learn more when you fail and that can be invigorating.

I beat myself up when I fail, I hate myself for it. That’s why I’m exploring self-esteem. Others can take advantage too, give you more and more to do seeing you’re keen to succeed. They then can reprimand you more for not (at work), that’s there issue though and manipulation.

Most success in life is full of failure. I also like a quotation by Gandi that goes something like ‘ first they laugh at you, then they fight you, then you win’

This websit might be over interest - www.overcoming.co.uk/single.htm?ipg=4795