Giving notice.... all the repercussions of! Do I have to explain, etc

[alltoomuchrightnow]

Being micro managed and scapegoated at work (long story but have another thread currently re).
If I give my month's notice.. am I obliged to give full reasons? Do I have to fully explain and elaborate if asked?
Also I know there would be an exit interview...so again, do I have to explain fully? Do I have the right to remain 'silent' or just stick to a few neutral points or white lies (eg I want to find something nearer to home..which isn't true..I don't mind travelling)
I know they will be angered and left in the proverbial by my notice.(they should have thought of that though). If I remain calm and professional can they give me a negative or just vague reference if I have done everything 'by the book' re leaving?
What if it becomes a hostile environment and I'm guilt tripped?
I don't feel strong enough to deal with that or to explain myself right now.
My boss always emails me on my days off (again today and contents of which are the final nail) Should I give notice in email and then writing or writing only? (considering if an issue or important info, she only ever emails me)

[Rosamund1]

I've been in a similar situation.

1. It feels good to vent: do it on mumsnet. To them present a calm cool exterior, not some sort of moaning myrtle.
   
2. You do not need to give reasons. However the best reason for them and you is that you have a new job to go to.
   
3. People DO NOT like being criticised and will often get spiteful about as a result. What will you gain from explaining? They have made it clear by their actions that they do not GAF about your feelings. It is not your responsibility to give them strategies for improving their business after you have already presented them and had them rejected.
   
4. Do not tell another employer how much you hated it- it will label you as a whiner.
   
5. Leaving them in the lurch. Your employers have created this environment and are now reaping the consequences. They should have thought about that before treating employees badly. It was their decision what your notice period is. If they felt it was a critical role they could have said six weeks, two months or whatever notice.
   

You owe them professionalism but not your tears, sweat and blood.

[blueshoes]

I agree with Rosamund to keep it professional.

Give your notice, thank them for the opportunities in your notice, serve your notice, handover as best you can, say nothing at the exit interview and move on. Their loss but not your problem to fix it. Your opinion will count for nought once you have tendered.

Going to a better job and leaving them behind is the best revenge.

[alltoomuchrightnow]

Thankyou both. Wise words.. will make a note! Yes agree..vent to friends or on here… but not to them even though tempting. It's not going to change anything for me and I guarantee they'd be the same with the next poor sod who gets my job

[alltoomuchrightnow]

Rosamund..did you have an exit interview?

[PridePrejudiceZombies]

Just play it calm and cool. You have most to gain by staying neutral. So give an inoffensive reason like closer to home or more money.