Hi all,
Without going into massive amounts of detail, I've been working for a boss who had become progressively more verbally abusive over the past 3.5 years. It started as things I could easily brush off as me beig over-sensitive, but it's developed to being more than just a 'mean boss'. He undermines everything I do, criticises (not constructively) every piece of work I complete (even when he has complimented the same piece of work privately to another male colleague). He talks to me differently to everyone else - he is hostile and rude, and on my first day back from maternity leave accused me of being 'unproductive' in comparison to other employees.
I have a diary of his behaviour which I have shown to HR but with only two months of my contract to work, while 13 weeks pregnant, I just don't want the stress of going through formal complaints about his behaviour and our latest confrontation.
However, I'm worried. I have suffered from severe morning sickness with each of my pregnancies (last throughout the 40 weeks) and this pregnancy has been better but I can tell a marked difference in how much I'm sick at the weekend vs a weekday. I'm violently ill every morning (and sometimes on the way to work too), I have trouble getting to sleep and staying asleep now as well. I'm hugely uncomfortable meeting him alone at work because of the aggression he displays and when I learnt he had a booked a meeting room last week for one of our meetings, my hands instantly erupted in a stress rash - tonnes of bright red itchy spots on the front and backs of my hands.
I feel fine at the weekends. I feel fine as soon as out of work for the day and I stay fine until about 9pm when I start thinking about the next day at work. But while I can deal with a couple of months of feeling anxious about work, I'm starting to get concerned over the physical reactions I'm now getting. The sickness and sleeplessness could be attributed to being pregnant, although they are much worse thn I've experienced before, but the stress rashes? I don't want my baby to be hurt because of this, but equally I don't want to turn up at the GPs and ask whether they think I'm 'stressed enough' to be signed off for some or all of my contract, only to be laughed away as some kind of chancer. It's devastating to me that I can't go to work and enjoy it - I love my job (excluding the boss), but I don't know how much more I can take.
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meerkatt84 · 25/01/2015 23:00
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