OK, here we go. I have never posted anything such as this before. I am just going crazy...Had a beautiful baby girl 3 years ago. Now she is my everything. Unfortunately- or fortunately some would probably say? I have a job in banking. It is not the fairy tail some people might think. Or I suppose that is quite obvious with all the bad press it has been receiving over the last few years. A year after I returned from being on maternity I more or less hit the wall. The long hours and knowing how much I was missing out made me so sad that I could not go on. Without any sort of back up I resigned. I completely lost my confidence (which you need in this environment- trust me...!) and stayed at home for five months. It was great. Apart from the fact that my DH ended up dealing with all our bills, and obviously that was quite stressful for him. I was lucky and got a job again five months later. Unfortunately in the same industry. Here I am...a year later and my life (working) is a mess...my confidence is zero at the moment, I am starting to make silly mistakes, other people make me look like I dont know what I am doing and even I am starting to wonder what I am doing? What am I doing...? It is well paid, a great company (on paper) to work for- though extremely tough. I can do a good job if I put in 55-60 hours work a week. How much fun is that though when I have my little beautiful daughter at home waiting for me...? During the weeks I dont get to see much of her at all and it makes me very sad again. Part of me do not want to be at work, but unfortunately due to the current financial climat and our personal finances I have no choice (so it feels like) but to continue. It is so stressful though it is starting to affect my physical and mental health. I pick up infections all the time and feel sad and low most of the time. Apart from when I am with my daughter...My DH listens to my stories but probably think I should just be able to deal with it. I am after all a professional woman and should be able to fend for myself...But why have I so lost my confidence...? Where I am, people are like sharks/wolves. If they sense someone is low- they (some) take advantage of this to make themselves look better. Perhaps this is just the general human mentality? Or is it...I really dont know what to do...I am sure I will be called in for discussions tomorrow with my managers. I have had quite a few days off due to illness and recently started to make stupid mistakes. I had a discussion with my manager and said that I am looking after too many clients. And now I end up being assigned more clients? I also feel that I am being made to look like a scapegoat. I have never directly been involved in any financial errors but still feel like I am being made to look like I have been...what is wrong with me...why cant I speak up for myself and defend myself? I dont know what to do. Or part of me do...but I need to sort this mess out first before moving on to my next adventure. I just wanted to post this here to see if anyone else have ended up in a similar mess as to how I feel I am in...I know I should be happy having a job now...but I cant be happy when I miss out so much time with my daughter. She will only be young once...I wish I could just leave but that just is not an option for us at the moment...anyway...One way or another I must be able to fix this...
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