Giving feedback to a colleague

[morleylass]

I just want to get an opinion or two about a situation at work.

I was at a meeting yesterday and a colleague who is in my team, but a higher level said something which annoyed me, basically saying i must do something and when i questioned the purpose of why, was basically told that we should do it as he is senior to me (not my manager). At the time I just carried on professionally but was really annoyed. I spoke to another colleague also in the meeting who is at the same level as me and he felt the same as I did.

The colleague who has annoyed me is newly promoted and has significantly less experience than myself so although I am happy to do things differently just telling me I need to do it because he is senior is not a good enough reason IMO, if I really understood the rationale behind the conversation I think it would be more palatable.

My husband who is a senior manager says that I should not approach my manager and raise my concerns until I have fed back to the person concerned how he made me feel etc. I could and probably will do this, however as he has pulled rank on me I feel he should be senior enough to consider how his message would be received by his colleagues.

I'm sorry if this seems cryptic but I don't like giving tmi.
So is this the right thing to do, should I feedback to him how he made me feel or should I just ignore it, or mention it to my manager?

Any thoughts?
MLx

[morleylass]

Thanks bigwuss that information is really helpful, I will have a think about what I want the outcome of the conversation to be to be and use some of the tips from the link.