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My Mum works for a large high street bank / building society (so many merges so im not sure what anymore lol)
She has worked there nearly 20 years and has always been very very good at her job.
They have many targets to meet both individually, as a branch, and as an "area", and results published monthly / quarterly / annually etc.... and my Mother herself has quite often been the best performing staff member in the country, and often her branch has been too. Most months she is within the top 3 of the employees in her area and often the whole country.
This has been acknowledged in the past with her attending the chief executives annual meetings and being awarded prizes etc for outstanding performance, and she / her branch(es) have consistently been in the top performing ones for years!
In this time my Mum has worked with many colleagues, and some have turned into very good personal friends...
She worked up to being her branch manager, and led the team to being in the top 1 or 2 branches numerous months / quaters, and they all got prizes / bonus's etc.... Then there was management re-shuffling etc and jobs were merged / changed (as in so many places in the past few years) and some other person became her / their manager. (MUM was happy about this, as didn't really like the stress of dealing with personal staff issues, with what were (and still are) her friends.
The person who became their (area & branch) manager was horrible. A really nasty bully. She really upset my Mum, (and everyone else) . At the time it made me quite cross as my Mum (and colleagues) never did anything about her behavior or took it further. They were constantly got at and were criticised all the time; despite very often being the best performing branch in the whole area (and some times the whole entire country!) they were always moaned at for something.... someone had always not quite met 1 target.
She abused her "power" and would do everything possible to make mums & other staff members as difficult as possible just because "she could". (things like declining holiday with no reason etc , being highly uncompassionate when someones father died, you know being difficult because she had the power too)
Everyone was very unhappy... one person was signed off with stress, and then handed in her notice as could take it no more . Many others handed in their notice and left (despite having worked there happily for 10+ years).... and crucially most were working WITH my Mum...
My Mum changed branches (job came up slightly closer to home) and she liked the staff members there (many of her favorite friends / colleagues had now left) and she was working
(under the same manager) in a different branch. Many of the staff there were also as unhappy as she had treated them all the same.
One of Mums colleagues (like so many others) could take it no more and when a job came up in a different branch (in a different area / different manager) came up she jumped at the chance and moved.
In the mean time, the higher management decided it would be a good idea to move this horrible bulley manager and swap her with someone else. So My mum, and her branch / area have a new manager Immediately my mum is SO much happier... she is working for a human being and not a beast etc. He actually does his job well....
move on a bit, and someone in Mums branch leaves (not bullied out) so my mums ex colleague, (who changed out of the area just to get away from the nasty one) decided she would like to come back (Partly to work WITH my mum as they work so well together)
They have remained in close contact, are close friends, and see each other alot socially too. So she applied for her old job back (an easier faster commute for her too)....
It created huge confusion.... Mums new (nice) manager had to have a special interview with her... he needed to address "How she could cope with coming back, to work alongside my Mum?" . Mums friend was very confused as was asking why... she explained that she was looking forward to working with my Mum again as they both knew they worked well as a team, and she actually wanted to work with my mum, it was part of the reason WHY she wanted to come back . New manager guy gets all confused.... It is "well known among the higher management that mums friend left "because" of my Mum"... Yes the evil bitch has been telling everyone how AWFUL my mum is to work for & how no one can bare to work with her! It has been documented and somehow my Mum has been made to look like the black witch who no-one can bear to work with!!!!!!!!
Mums friend told her this on one of their many nights out! Mum asked her new manager and he confirmed that yes there HAD been confusion cause he and other higher members of staff had all been told by evil manager, how awful my Mum was, and how yet another person had left because of my Mum.
Now this is understandably upsetting my Mother... BUT she doesnt want to do anything official.
MY opinion is that she and her friends let this woman bully them, and forced many of them to leave their longterm jobs (and pensions) and it is clear that she has behaved wrongly
(I also suspect, but have no proof, that she has probably stated that my Mums other colleagues (who also worked closely with my mum) left because of my mother!)
I think my Mum should take it further and get her held accountable for her lies. There is no truth in it whatsoever.
My Mum remains close friends with all her colleagues who have left. (In fact my Father (my parents are divorced) now employs one of them, she has become a great family friend too)
They all wish they had said more / said WHY they were leaving, but none of them did. (probably difficult to tell someone to their face that you dont like them when you have notice to work!)
My Mum doesnt want to rock the boat as such, but i know every one of her friends would stand by her and say the reason why they left was due to being bullied by the nasty manager.
And regardless of that its crystal clear that she has specifically said that mums old colleague also really hated working with my Mum. 100% lies and i dont think she should be allowed to get away with it.
Mum wants to just leave it... I think she has a moral obligation to take it further...
should she leave it? Or take it further before she bullies so many more people into leaving their jobs (and pensions) because they can take it no more too?
My Mother worries about what would happen if manager swapped again, and she became mums manager again, how she would make my mothers life even harder.... my point is if this woman is outed now, neither my mother or any other innocent collegues will have to worry about being bullied buy her ever again.
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please help... should my mum take this further? slander
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nannyl · 28/05/2011 23:28
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