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Was this bullying?

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AmazingBouncingFerret Sun 21-Nov-10 20:38:23

Yesterday at work I was really ill. Havent quite gotten over bronchitis and yesterday was a bad day the cough was making me sick, I kept going hot and cold and was feeling very shakey.
At one point I had to leave a customer mid-transaction to run upstairs to be sick.
This was in the morning I was quite upset at the thought of having to stay in that condition for the rest of the day (until 6pm)

My boss was refusing to allow me to go home.
I was sat on the staff stairs crying and shivering when I could hear him telling another member of staff that I could just go upstairs to the staff room, sleep on the floor and he would call me if he needed me.
At this point I was trying to phone other members of staff to see if they could come in and cover for me.
In the end he relented and said if I stay whilst the other member of staff went for her lunch I could go home.
During that hour he was constantly muttering under his breath about me and saying that I looked much better when I clearly wasnt.
I phoned DH to come and get me at 1pm, when I got off the phone he said "oh you've changed your mind then?" confused
To which I replied with no.
He also had a go at me because I didnt notice a known shoplifter come into store until he walked out, he kept repeating "oh he has probably walked out with most of the shop because of you" This was when I lost my temper and pretty much shouted (on the shopfloor blush) "this is entirely the reason why I should go home, Im not up to doing my job properly"

Now im feeling really pissed off with him. Was his behaviour completely out of order or am I overreacting?
Could/should I take this further?

scurryfunge Sun 21-Nov-10 20:43:39

Depends what your sickness record is like normally.

If you have a good attendance record, then he was out of order in putting pressure on you to stay.

AmazingBouncingFerret Sun 21-Nov-10 20:46:24

Yeah my sickness record is fine. Only had one day off sick this year and one parental leave off.

onimolap Sun 21-Nov-10 20:51:14

He was behaving unreasonably, but I do not think this single event constitutes bullying.

Are you seeking any form of redress about this incident? What grievance procedures do you have open to you? I'd start with H&S options.

scurryfunge Sun 21-Nov-10 20:55:26

Then he is bullying you.
Is he measured on his staff's attendance record?

My DH's company has incentives for staff for a low sickness rate but this results in people attending work when really they should be at home, for fear of "letting the side down".

Speak to the supervisor of your boss and state what a difficult position you have been placed in and that it you are worried that you may have had to take more time off work due to the lack of opportunity to recover.

AmazingBouncingFerret Sun 21-Nov-10 21:08:40

Thanks. I think im going to see how he is on Wednesday (when im next in) Might have a talk to him about it and see what he says and then go from there.
You're right about it not being bullying. It was just a one off, normally he is okish, selfish but I normally dont let him get to me.
What grates me is im due to go for a major operation and I told him I would use holiday rather than sickdays to cover it. Think I might have myself a nice long holiday before my op now afterall.

onimolap Sun 21-Nov-10 21:48:53

Glad he's usually ok to work with. I hope you can find appropriate steps to take to ensure that this stays as a much regretted one off. Good luck - with this, and the forthcoming op.

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