Hello, I'm looking for some advice please and don't know where to start.
I visited my dad last night, with dh, we visit every Wednesday eve and he prepares for our visit by putting out dishes of crisps/nuts/biscuits and a bottle of wine. For the last few months we've pretended it's still a lovely social visit and catch up while ignoring his increasingly bizarre conversation and deteriorating house standards. I have always got on well with him but I've never lived with him so it's not a normal father/daughter relationship.
Last night he rang to say not to come over as he wasn't well and was in bed, we were nearly there (he lives an hour away) so he said ok, see you soon. He had fallen again, his face was a mess, his coffee table and contents were in bits all over the living room, and his arm and leg hurt. There was blood on the cream carpet. He considers dh and I as visitors/friends, not people to help, so hadn't rang on Monday when he fell and I know he won't call anyone else either, he just battles on through as he doesn't want to be an inconvenience. Also, he drinks and I think he's a bit ashamed about it.
Last night he agreed to some medical help, but only if I left it until today - he wanted a good night's sleep last night but said I could ring his doctor today and ask for a home visit (I don't even know if they still do home visits?). He also admitted that he needs some help to carry on living independently at home, but I don't know who to contact? Social services? NHS?
He's asked me not to ring him until 11 am today as he wants a lie in.
TIA
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MyAuntyBadger · 22/08/2019 09:09
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