I have had another thread running about MIL, who is still in hospital, now bedblocking, waiting for a reablement bed. However, although that would be for a six week period, we doubt that she will co-operate with attempts to overcome her refusal to walk and we suspect that the placement may come a sudden end before the six weeks is up.
Realistically, as she is virtually immobile, with mid-stage dementia and has shown that she is unable to look after herself, we now need to look for a care home.
For the record, I have looked at the CHC Checklist and the Decision Support Tool and I don’t think we’re there yet, so her care will have to be paid for.
At current rates, MIL has funds available for about a year and for about three years if/when we sell her house. Apart from the dementia, she appears to be perfectly healthy. Her BP is lower than mine!
We started off looking at homes close to where we live, but found that they don’t take people with dementia. Those that do are further away and often prohibitively expensive.
We now have a list from the LA of the homes that they are contracted with, of which there are only six in our city of 350,000 people that take people with dementia. Once the money runs out, all but two will require a top up of anything up to £850 a week. MIL’s DC are all retired and I cannot see any of them, including DH wanting to attempt to pay a top-up from their pensions. We couldn’t rely on everybody making a contribution.
What do we do? Do we choose the expensive place with the great facilities and hope that she doesn’t live until the money runs out so we don’t have to move her, or do we go for one of the cheap places and, hopefully, continuity? What an awful decision to have to make!
Does anyone who’s been through this have any advice?
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Choosing a Care Home Dilemma
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NaToth · 24/07/2019 15:42
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