My dad is 91 and mentally sharp, he's physically been OK, limited movement etc but no chronic illnesses. In the last couple of months he has rapidly declined. He had a urinary blockage which took him to hospital and he has been catheterised since then. The experience shook him, he's not getting on with the district nurses coming in to change the catheter, and he's generally very angry and refuses to engage with any services.
He's at home, he's now refusing to eat and hasn't eaten since Saturday. He'll drink sugary coffee and water but that's it. He is trying to hold it over immediate family saying he won't eat unless... X and y are done which are impossible to achieve (I.e
bring this journalist to my house, take this matter to court - things you just can't do).
I'm reading about this and not eating does seem very common at end of life with elderly people. I think he has given up. I can see he is scared and getting very weak, sleeping a lot. However it has come on so quickly and for him being in otherwise good health it is alarming to see him deteriorate so quickly. Hospital and doctor not fussed - doctor came out and almost rolled eyes at us for fussing because he's 91. We're just alarmed by the rapid change, we don't know what to do for the best.
Is there anyone that can give us any help or advice? My mum is at home with him, he's horrible to her (which predates this) but she is scared that she's alone with him and doesn't know what to do. She is due to meet her GP tomorrow so any pointers on what to ask for would be very helpful. We're at our wits end.
Thanks in advance.
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Dad 91 on hunger strike - what can we do?
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KavvLar · 17/05/2019 00:05
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