I live a long distane away from my family but try to get home as oftern as I can.
my father has COPD, Asbestos and other conditions relating to s lings and breathing. He reallu is quite ill with frequent hospital stays. my mum is his prime carer and she is struggling.
No-one has went through what my dads illness really is, what stages it is at and any discussions about what will happen next. we know he is ill but not a real picture of what it means for the next months. I doubt he has a year.
I was home last week and it coincided with another hospital stay. I tried to get to speak with a doctor but no-one was available at any stage. A doctor rang my mother yesterday saying that a family member has asked for a call so he was following up. In a very off hand manner he said that they were running out of options to treat him and that as a DNR was signed - there will be little emergency interventions in the future.
I am not saying a DNR is not appropriate but this has never been discussed with any of the family or my dad. I know the doctors can override a family's decision but we are not contesting it but wondered why no-one had let us know this had been agreed.
I thought we had to be informed?
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petiteonion · 09/04/2019 12:32
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