I just really need to talk. Last week my mother had a stroke, she has other very serious health conditions too. She is in hospital now and will be for some time.
My father is very old and has dementia, I had to put him in care last week when this happened. 2 days ago the care staff told me the end is near, week or so at most. I have tried so hard to keep things together but am juggling daily 70 mike round trips visiting them both, 2 kids and a house move next week.
I have not told my mum yet but feel the time has come I have to and see if I can take her to see him. I will speak with her doctors tomorrow and see if this is possible.
In the midst of it all their house has been burgled. All her jewellery from him and his wedding ring gone.
Last night I think I had a break down. I literally can’t sleep. Can’t eat if I’m not with them I’m just waiting on the call. I am struggling so much and as this has been going on 12 years friends have kind of drifted off. My dh has been great and is trying to hold me together but I know I am
Close to a break down.
Mum worked so hard to keep him at home despite all her own conditions and for him to go now like this is breaking me apart. I don’t want him to be alone at the end but am worried telling my mum will giver her another stroke. But I can’t not tell her. No siblings to help. Am distraught and just needed to talk to someone. Have sat here since 4.30am just dreading the day ahead. I go to see her first and pretend all is ok and he is just fine. I can’t go on like this I just don’t want to loose him this way
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End is near
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Bella912 · 10/06/2018 06:56
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