Hello to all,
I've been reading these pages so feel like I'm among friends here...anyway here goes...my mother was discharged from hospital on Monday...she was admitted the previous Tuesday after a massive COPD attack and also another mild heart attack. She is also highly anxious...it's exhausting...she worries about EVERYTHING. I called the paramedics. We had just arrived back home to her house after she'd been staying with my sister for several months. Had almost completely shut down...had hardly eaten for two weeks, dehydrated, wanted to die...couldn't cope with life or being alone...this was last year prior to staying with my sister...I have no spare room. Anyway, Mum was visited by OT in hospital but she's had dealings with them before and just rolls eye's and is not willing to except help so it's fallen to me. She does not want to be alone...relations are strained between my sister and mum...all was OK until mum started being paranoid and feeling sister didn't want her...not true. Sister has a partner and grown up daughter...mum seemed jealous of attention they received. Anyway I've been here for second week now...I have a job...family, dog and been looking after mum's dog and cannot stay indefinitely. What I'm asking is What should I do? Mum would like sheltered accommodation I think. She's hard to talk to...gets very stressed. She won't come home with me...home too busy and no own room. Won't go back to my sister's...can't be left alone. Her breathing is awful...used nebs three time's today. Just shuffling to the toilet takes it out of her. God this is an epic post...Apologies. She won't even let me change a light bulb incase I get it wrong...several lights have blown. Mum owns home. Sister and I, 70 miles away. I am not in possession of a magic wand to make it all better for her! Everything takes time...mum wants it sorted now but won't actually say what she wants...just that she can't cope alone with responsibility of home etc. Limited mobility due to COPD chest. I know she's a frightened, very unwell lady who cannot believe this is her life...she's trying to cling on to her independence but at the same time knowing she cannot cope alone due to her ill health. Scared of what the future holds for her...me too. HELP! Please.
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BUNMUM · 14/02/2018 05:30
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