I've posted this in relationships but due to my dad's age I wondered if somebody in here had experience of anything similar.
Dad has always been quite an awful person, domestic violence against my mum (been divorced now 17 years) and violence against his subsequent partner. He was an alcoholic for years, three suicide attempts (one of which I found him aged 17) police always called to our house. Lots of secrets and lies and has pushed everybody away so now I'm the only person who bothers with him. I'm an only child.
He is now 75, chronic health problems, chronic pain, a recent fall that put him in hospital for 2 months. Pretty much housebound and can only walk with a frame. I've been running round sorting everything and trying to smooth things out when he's vile to carers and hospital staff. Exhausted with it.
He's decided that nows the time to make an allegation that my mother tried to get him to sexually abuse me when I was a child. This was texted to me after an argument (he was shouting at me on the phone that the time that the carer was due to arrive was inconvenient so he was going to kill himself, I said that he has to stop threatening that every time he's upset over something as it brings back traumatic memories for me).
He is still maintaining his allegation is true two weeks later and it has tipped my mental health state into the abyss, I've been fast tracked to counselling through work and I can't see my dad at the moment.
My instinct is that the allegation is malicious on his part but I also have to consider some sort of dementia or false memory - although he has just had all of those kinds of tests in hospital and passed with flying colours. Any advice?
My mum is refuting the allegation by the way, she is shocked and disgusted and this is a bolt out of the blue. (They've been divorced years now).
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Awful allegations from my dad
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zebrano · 09/02/2018 18:34
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