I have written here before, last year i think, about my dad who is 95 and lives alone. It was concerning his ' musical hallucinations' , which has been most written off as him having tinnitus or just his age.
We did mention to a doctor back in feb falling a fall that he had, but she was very dismissive. Google has thrown up a few things about this condition , which is rare, but does exist.
This past week his behaviour has gotten much worse - started on tuesday when he put the microwave on for too long ( he has the wiltshire foods and been using this microwave for years and years and it was old) He nearly smoked himself out. We have bought a new one, but he cant use it , been shown around 10 times and has instructions written down, but is driving my poor brother mad by ringing up saying he cant work it. It is very basic and i feel bad as i bought it thinking it would be easy and basic enough, even if its not the same as the old one. He had trouble yesterday.
i saw him friday and the singing has got worse, he will sit there humming loudly over any conversation and goes on about how there is a man singing in the street - all very very old songs from the 1940s and some are just made up tunes. It is very wearing.
He was confused today on the phone over what happened to the old microwave and there was further confusion about money. My brother had to see him yesterday and there may have been a bit of a row as dad is now making things up and my brother has had enough on his plate with another family member with illness ( she is now in a home) and my sil isnt very sympathetic either.
I have done all i can, but i live 25 miles away and i cant always get to him - we all work and none of us live close by. The singing is the worst thing though - he will sing the whole song all the way through - we are all a bit fed up listening to it. Yet doctors etc do not seem to think its anything to worry about.
He is so confused with this new gadget and we cant get there every lunch time to do the meals. i know i sound very self pitying, but he has been alone for 7 years now and despite doing our best we feel very alone and i know that the health professionals wont be able to do much. he doesnt want to go into a home, or have carers. he is very stubborn and, although we wanted him to move home to be near to one of us, he just wouldnt and now its this situation.
I think it could be the first signs of dementia, although he has had uti's in the past that has made him a bit peculiar - he does drink water and tea and not complained about his water works or passing blood.
I know i need him to see his GP, but i;m not confident they will do much really. He had forgotton i went there on friday and its sad he has turned on my brother , as he has been very good to him. his short term memory is really bad and getting much worse too.
sorry for the rant, just wondered if anyone had any other advice?
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The80sweregreat · 06/08/2017 10:56
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