I will try to keep this brief.
Grand father moved into care home last year with dementia. Social services opened a case, then closed it without giving us any real help. Grandparents have enough money to pay for care and didn't qualify for anything from ss. My aunt was distraught to do this as she felt she had failed him (neither grandparent ever wanted to go into care, but neither was coping at home together).
Grandmother has been admitted to hospital this week following a serious fall and confusion, has an infection which is now being treated. Aunt doesn't want her to go into a care home after the hospital discharge, but my mum and I (who live 50 miles away) think this would be for the best (mum found her following the fall, we don't know how long she had been lying there but probably a few hours). Aunt isn't coping with the stress, but can't see she isn't.
In mine and mums ideal world, we would move both in to the same care home, sell the house and know that they were both being looked after. But my aunt has different ideas. my gran has a Monday to Friday 8-5 carer but she fell at night, so this was no good to her. We can't afford 24 hour care at home for her. Does my aunt have more right to dictate the care arrangements because she is there. Can/will the hospital discharge a patient to this care arrangement or will they want more in place? Also my aunt is known to lie, if she told the hospital more was in place, would they check?
Really what I want to know is, who makes the descion if the patients family can't decide (only 2 siblings)? Does one have the authority to trump the other because they are more local/older/some other reason.
It's a bad enough situaiton without a family battle going on about what to do. Any advice would be greatly received.
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Daffydill2016 · 03/02/2016 14:17
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