I have no idea if this is a good idea or not. My dgm and great uncle are no longer coping well. They live together and their house is unsuitable and a 90 min drive from family. My father is proposing selling it and using money to pay for a care home close to him and me and my brother. This will cost about the same as their house value, they will see family a couple of times a week and have each other. My dgm doesn't socialise well, I am concerned that she will fall out with staff and other residents pretty quickly. So I was thinking that we could use the money from the house plus a mortgage we would take out to buy a large house for all 6 of us.. DH and I have a dcs aged 2 and 5. I would still have to work, we would need to bring carers in during the day, they are both frail and have memory problems but with it iykwim.
So the benefits would be that they would be with family, have a little more independence, and we would be able to take out a mortgage and inherit some money and get to spend some quality time with dgm (who my eldest adores) and my uncle. We would eventually sell the house and downsize. But it seems a very complex arrangement, I have no idea about legalities or what would happen if there health deteriorated further ( they currently have carers 3 times daily) . I am not terribly close to my uncle, he is very quiet and lived abroad when I was young. If they would prefer the home that's fine, but want to work out if we can do it before proposing it.
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Considering moving in with my grandmother, thoughts and opinions most welcome.
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wonderstuff · 24/02/2013 12:46
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