I am after some advice.
My father is 83 and incredibly ill - he has dementia, heart problems and leukaemia. My mother is 79 and is his sole carer. I live 450 miles away - and am the only child. I visit when I can but it's just not enough.
My dm is struggling with the care aspect - he is falling over, incontinent, frail, has to be fed etc.
After a crash team had to go to their house yesterday to get him back to bed after he collapsed the GP has decided he is at risk of serious falls and should - most likely - be in a Care Home.
Carers are going to start coming in twice daily.
He is happy at home (as much as he can be) but the house has 4 storeys and dm is exhausting herself.
All in all it is an incredibly sad and difficult situation for all involved.
Now to the 'money' bit. Sorry. They are asset rich (in terms of their house) but do not have much cash savings. The only way dm would be able to afford care home fees is to sell their house and downsize - but then she is 79 and has all her good neighbours and friends nearby. It would also be a huge upheaval at her age.
The only other option I can think of is 'Equity Release'. I know this has mixed reviews but does anyone know of any other alternatives - or of any reputable Equity Release plans?
We are not in a position to help financially. Thanks so much for reading.
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hf128219 · 16/08/2012 15:23
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