DDs are 8 (end August birthday) and 6, Yrs 4 and 1 in UK. We moved to a new town and school at the end of November, mainly in order to attend a better smaller state school. To give you an idea, the old one got all 3s in last OFSTED (and I've watched obviously declining esp in behaviour) and new one got all 1s. I agree there is more to life than ofsted, but I just knew we had to get out of there!
DDs were "G&T" in old one but I felt this reflected the school more than them, they just like to read a LOT and don't cause trouble-teachers love that. New school helped them fit in and they like it, eldest has endlessly told me she is the top of the class in every subject (more on that in a minute). My problem is this-it's even more of a "Keep out, parents!" place and I am getting even less clues about how they are actually doing.
So when we got the school reports in which they were very unremarkably average in almost everything, I'm fine with that, but when I called to arrange the teacher meeting as the accompanying letter invited, it was like I was a huge trouble maker! Apparently no other parents had arranged an appointment, "It's all there in the report". I insisted as we are new, plus the report's main point said the exact opposite of last years, about DD1s effort and presentation of her work. So has she changed or is the standard of the school or Yr4 different-she never brings anything home so how can I tell?
So what, you might say. She's average, what's to worry? But in the past, DD1 began to suffer from migraine attacks (GP thinks) that got worse in yr 2 and start of 3, esp when attempting maths. I gave her more help with it, she found it easier, got moved up a table and the migraines stopped. Guess what started again in May? She's now had 6 days off school (spread over 6 weeks) with intractable pain-more than she's had off in her entire school career in total!
She's now admitted she is not on the "clever" kids tables in ANY topic (this child read all the Harry Potters at 6 and yes she understood them, and has insatiable interest in several topics) and the kids she has been put with are noisy and don't bother much about the work. When she finishes, they aren't allowed to read for pleasure as in old place, but are expected to quietly sit and double check their work (sounds like she needs to, but won't and resents the loss of a treat for finishing). She says they can't even do anything fun for wet play. The heat has made it all come out (and probably set off the migraines).
So I know not to mention the words gifted or bored (an issue for dd2 who also has read and reread all the HPs). How can I get the school to give me more timely and useful feedback next year? I don't actually know how to make her present her work better, I don't have a remote control! I need to see the actual work more often, but it's parent unwelcoming.
I could read with the class which is useful to spy on the school, but I did that in the old school with Yr 6 and I had problems staying awake! Plus I work with a long commute now.
Please advise, this week has been ghastly and I don't know where to start.
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Calling pushy parents-help me assert myself at teacher meeting tomorrow! sorry long
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zenlikecalm · 05/07/2009 07:37
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