Would you ask for them to be split up next term?

[MnJsMum]

DD (5) has a best friend at school who DH and I are not very keen on.

Although the girls are in the same class, the class is split up into groups during the day - some do reading, writing and maths with an adult, while others have to "choose" (role pay, book corner, outdoors)- and DD's teacher assured me that she has put them into different groups to ensure that they are not together for activities.

I was at school for the day yesterday and noticed that the best friend couldn't play with other children or even alone when it was her turn to "choose". She constantly begged DD to come and play even when DD was happily working on an activity.

I kept telling the friend that DD was busy and why didn't she try to find someone else to play with but she wouldn't, and finally DD caved in and left her activity to satisfy her pal.

The friend lacks concentration during "whole class together" sessions and the teacher had to move her to the front of the class a few times. I am not happy with her "language" and attitude - encouraging DD to "teach a Yr 2 girl a lesson". DD was pushed over and kicked by the Yr 2 girl following the friends advice.

After this incident, I approached DD's teacher to discuss splitting DD and friend up for Yr1 and was told that she didn't think they needed to be split up.

What do any of you think I should do?

[beachyhead]

They probably won't split them up on demand as lots of schools keep class groups together for the whole duration at the school. It would be a bit obvious if either your dd or her friend were suddenly moved into a different class. My dd's class sit on tables, which are carefully arranged so the naughty ones don't interrupt the quiet ones etc.....and the teachers are normally quite happy to arrange the seating to accomodate a parents request. I think you can go so far in getting your own way with some schools, but it is their perogative to arrange the groups/classes as they see fit.

[toomanypushchairs]

Oh, I do hope you sort this out for your dd. My dd was in a similar situation. They wouldn't split them up. We wound up moving her to a different school a term into year 2.

[MnJsMum]

Thanks for your advice.

I do know that the class groups do reamin the same throughout their aducation at this school.

Will keep an eye on things I think. It's such a worry though.

Thanks again x