Teacher bruised my son's arm ..........

[Galaxy]

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[jimmychoos]

Galaxy that sounds terrible. Whether your son had permission to leave the room or not she shouldn't have been physically rough with him. I would actually go and talk to the HM, I think to send a photo and letter seems more confrontational than sitting down in a meeting to discuss what has happened and give both sides a chance to put their points across.

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[Flip]

I'd speak to the headmaster. Our school have an open door policy and he wants to know straight away so things can be resolved. None of the teachers are allowed to man handle the children unless it's to stop them being in imminent danger.

My dad works at the school and he was accused by the parents of a child he'd had to yank back from infront of a car outside of school of man handling their child unneccesarily. The head master backed my dad up and he said he'd do the same again regardless.

But these things are better talked about sooner rather than later. I'd call the head master now and ask if you can make an appointment to see him. He'll probably want to know what it's about and will probably be very concerned and want to see you straight away.

Hope things get resolved.

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[Flip]

You do it because you care Galaxy. It doesn't matter that you're his stepmum. Obviously you're important to.

[Hulababy]

This sounds terrible Galaxy and as if the teacher is out of order. TBH as a teacher we are recommended not to touch a child at all, let alone grab at one - if nothing else to protect yourself. I am really sorry that your DS has had to deal with it all.

I do think you need to speak to the school BUT I think you should maybe speak to someone higher up or wiat least with another memeber of staff present. I would also take your photo wth you. And simply ask for it to be explained (rather than going straight in acccusing IYSWIM).

I would phone up ina advance too and ask for meet at a mutually convenient time - ask to speak to the Head on the phone, not just the secretary - so you aren't fobbed off, and you can state the matter to him/her direct - rather than to a 3rd party (gossip and all that!) At least then the head can do some research or ask the class teacher to be present, and you kwow that at theat time you'll have the head's complete attention without other distractions happening.

[robinw]

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[Galaxy]

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[Hulababy]

Galaxy - forget to mention this in first message, but when you speak to the Head or teacher I really wouldn't mention about the other child being hit. Unless you actually saw it happen then I think that has to be put to one side in this circumstance.

I actually do think that this is worth persuing though. If this teacher has a problem (and yes, some do, espcially in today's school emnvironments sadly) then it needs nipping in the bud and sorting now before any other problems happen.

Oh, and yes - do have a word with your DS to reiterate what he shpuld have done and why what he did do as wrong, and tell the Head that you have done this and that you dont expect him to get no punishment at all, but that is should be appropriate and non physical.

[Coddylicious]

I would take your soen word with ahuge pinch of salt - i am NOT saying the events may not be true but IME kids tended to exaggreate or propagate rumour to parents who wouldnt accpet that their kids MAY lie!

[Coddylicious]

agree with Hula AND donot sdiscuss with other parents

[Galaxy]

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[robinw]

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[Coddylicious]

and is it resolved G?

[Hulababy]

Hope all goes well Galaxy, keep us posted. Schools and teachers can do good and help sort things out in these curcumstances and it really doesn't have to be confrontational. But, I now I keep stressing it, it really is important that the matter is discussed and sorted out one way or the other - it has to be investigated to ensure this teacher isn't losing the way or in need of help int he classroom - incase something worse happens.

Sorry robinw - but regardless of the matter I really don't think a teacher should grab at a child and certainly not with enough force to cause a bruise. That is why I really do feel it needs discussing and sorting out.

[Galaxy]

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[dottee]

Galaxy - I've just come from a morning at dd's school where I've been with my 'governor's hat' on as an advocate for a parent. I totally agree with Hulababy here. Approach the Head informally and take it from there. This morning's issue could have blown up but we all sat round (parent, grandmother, Head, teacher, me!) and we worked it out to everyone's satisfaction.

I totally agree with just sticking to the issue's concerning your child and it will be better if you can furnish evidence e.g. photo.

It's worthwhile taking into account that since the Victoria Clambie (sp?) enquiry, child protection has become paramount to all agencies including schools, therefore, you should be taken seriously.

[Galaxy]

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[Hulababy]

Don't want an arguement here, especially as off topic, but I don't agree witht he girl/boy issue here. IMEE at schools - seocndary albeit - the girls are just as likely, if not more so, to exagerate stories. And they often tend to stik together more and back up their stories. I have found the biys more likely to cave in and tell the truth much more quickly when questioned, espeically if on their own when asked more about it. As I said though, a side issue and this is just MY observations, not a general view.

[Twinkie]

robinw - I think it is the other way around with regards to kids and telling the truth - my daughter and lots of her friends are proper little drama queens, whereas all the little boys I know seem to be able to tell the truth without embelishments a lot easier.

Look at all the male teachers whohave been accused of inappropriate behaviour and sometimes rape by girls - think your generalisation is unfair and sexist and I hope other people don't think like this!!

And as someone who has met Galaxy's DS I have to say out of all the 11 year old boys I have ever met he seemed honest, level headed, caring and trustworthy and not someone I would ever think would lie about something like this - he is sensible enough to understand the magnitude of his accusations!!