Ok I hope this doesn't turn into a long post. We currently live in a small town with pretty awful schools (both primary and secondary) so definitely want to move before our daughter (2yrs) goes to primary school. I changed primary schools a lot when I was young and it really affected me so I am really fixated on making sure my daughter (and next one due aug) establish roots somewhere and makes friends at primary and then all go up to secondary together.
The issue we have is that we currently live in a tiny new build house which makes us miserable every day, just existing with 2 adults, 2 big dogs and soon to be 2 children is so so hard. We have the option of doing a house swap into a close relatives house which has lots of potential and in nearer bath and bristol so fab location but still in a nice village. It's a bigger house and we could move within the next 6 months. Only problem is the primary school in the village is great but the secondary school it feeds in to is ok but not amazing by any standards. The secondary is also in a bit of a dodgy area which worries me a bit. We could move in to the village then move again before secondary to a better catchment but then that defeats the object of my daughter making friends that she can take to secondary school.
Our other option is just to stay put in this tiny house and slog out 3 years as we are then try and save enough to move to a lovely town just east of bath which has fab schools both primary and fab secondary. However the house prices there are really high and if we can afford to move in 3 years (which we might not) it will be to a house marginally bigger than this.
I feel so so torn, I want to do what's best for my children. I really don't know if I'm putting too much importance on not changing schools or whether that would really cause them huge upset. I also don't know whether I'm putting too much weight on choosing a school based on results/ofsted. Both secondary's (the one in the nice town and the one in the catchment of the house we could swap with are rated as 'good' but basically (and please don't judge me) but one is in a quaint well to do town and the other is in quite a rough one. And the rough one has average grades whereas the quaint town one has high grades.
If I could choose where to live (and won the lottery! It would be the quaint town over my relatives village, even though the village is nice! Mainly cause I like the idea of living in a town with facilities more than a village, but one doesn't stand head and shoulders above the other for me.
Oh the other thing is if we move into my relatives then we will be a couple of hundred pound better off a month.
I feel so torn, we could in theory move into my relatives, then move to the quaint town in 5 or 6 years when we could comfortably afford to do so but again I'm worried sick about putting my daughter through what I went through unnecessarily. (I had 5 different primary schools though so it is a bit different).
Any opinions would be gratefully received.
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Evasmum88 · 14/03/2014 21:18
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