I am divorcing in very early stages following an emotionally abusive relationship. He doesn’t know that the counsellor told me he was emotionally abusive and intend for him never to find out as think it would go nuclear. We have started working out financial split and custody of our 8 year old daughter. He is pushing for 50/50 custody, and I mean really pushing for it. Prior to me telllng him it was over he has never been involved, I have always been the lead parent (in fact I was like a single parent), he spent most weekends in bed and barely bothered with her, always on his iPad. Now of course he is father of the year, spending time with her and taking her to school sometimes, but we’re talking 4 weeks versus 8 years. I worry (as I’m sure very mum does) that if she’s without me for 50% of the time she’ll really struggle. I’ve always been the one she could rely on and while it’s great that ex is now stepping up for her I just don’t want him to have her 50% of the time , I think it’s too much.
Has anyone got more than 50/50 custody and how did you negotiate that please?
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Anyone go for greater than 50/50 custody?
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Proseccodreams · 19/11/2020 12:43
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