Don't flame me, have been in unhappy marriage for many years, he refused to separate. I finally filed for divorce last Jan and am just waiting for the absolute. He has (reluctantly) moved out to small rented house in same small town. We are joint owners of the family home, which he wants me to sell in the summer but I want to wait till DS1 is settled at Uni. DS1 doesn't get on with stbxh and makes v little effort to see him. Ds2 age 13 still adores him and stays there 2x weekly. Stbxh usually comes to collect him. These occasions involvr;
- walking straight into the house without knocking or ringing bell
- using toilet (for nice long time)
- walking into lounge in trainers fresh from being on mucky astroturf
- throwing trainers across floor when I asked him to take them off as I'd spent the morning cleaning. Both DS saw this
*taking the dog to stay over but forgetting to take his medication
When DS2 stsys there, if he doesn't like the microwave korma that is for dinner, he gets bread and butter and chopped up apple. This was his meal on NYE.
And so on.... have told DS2 to suggest easy dinners like egg beans and oven chips which he can do himself, but stbxh 'has no money. '
Am I within my rights to change the locks once the absolute comes through so he can't just barge in? Or still not as he's joint owner? Seriously, it's doing my head in