I posted on an old thread, so am starting a new one here.
Im new… and not a mum.. so not sure I qualify on Mumsnet…
My estranged husband has developed vile narcissitc and even psychopathic tendencies… nothing to do with the steroids and cocaine hes been snorting with his mistress apparently…
But all the same.. a total personality transplant… and all he is intent on is throwing me under the wheels of the bus.
It all started 14 months ago when I caught him red-handed kissing the mistress at her house.
He tried to deny deny deny for weeks, and then ‘borrowed’ my car to go visit his mums for weekend and instead took her to Brighton… leaving me with no transport and a poorly cat that needed euthanising.
I discovered he had lied when she sent him a long message saying how he LOVED her and the BJ’s she gave him and how he had slagged me off endlessly and ’trapped’ him in an unhappy marriage for years.
The vile cruel bullying continued for many months, even with a bit of physical abuse thrown in for good measure, and I left with just an overnight bag, when he tried to throw me down the stairs..
Now he wont engage in ANY sensible communication, but instead is desperate to throw some shit at me in the hope it sticks (apparently Ive laundered £100k of our joint money and he has forensic accountants involved... Im hoping they might be able to locate it and remind me where I hid it as I could do with some cash right now as he isnt paying the mortgage, has moved his mistress in, and has changed the locks so I cannot get the rest of my stuff.
Then he sends me vile abusive messages, and also threatening messages to a best friend of mine he seems inanely jealous of… and when he calls me at work yesterday.. Im not allowed to even speak and instead have to listen to him rant.. for an hour… and when I actually yawned on the call he shouted that I had interrupted him and so he was hanging up!
Im married to a mad man. He needs to be sectioned!!!
The police are coming round tonight to take a written statement from me for his malicious communications from a week ago, and I have to try to apply to the courts for contempt of court as he has breached an undertaking we both signed and has harassed and intimidated me.. as has the mistress.. sending me vile cruel emails pretending to be him "my god you are so ugly I don't know what I ever saw in you”. Sent to me on our wedding anniversary in September.. so I suspect she was feeling a tad inferior or he wasn’t paying her enough attention that night (in my defence.. Im actually not bad looking and have always been complimented as looking much younger than my 45 years! And recent dates have certainly not made any complaints!)
warning: these people walk amongst us purporting to be normal!!!!!!!
I wonder if maybe his steroid and new cocaine habit could have anything to do with his impulsive aggressive behaviour.. he says not of course!!!!
Im not really posing a question here… just offloading.. because… its like living in an episode of Jeremy Kyle… and Im exhausted, broken and weak from it. Yet I still have the month of all fights on my hands with the Divorce, which is proving painfully expensive and painfully slow (note he didnt bother to even turn up at the first hearing. That HE called… due to ‘depression’)
He then told me yesterday that last week he took an overdose and the mistress found him.. rescusuitated him and got him to hospital…
I did try to question how his little 9 stone mistress managed to carry a semi-conscious 16 stone bodybuilder to her car, but he didnt seem to want to answer….
Apparently he NEARLY DIED and lost three days of his life.
I asked what the Psychiatric nurses said.. since you always speak to one with any attempt of self harm or suicide.. but he said he didn’t see one.
Wonder whether steroid and cocaine use causes someone to become a pathological liar too???
Anyway
How do I get the rest of my stuff out of my house
How do I get his mistress out of my house
Do I stop paying the mortgage this month since I cannot afford that and my rent and my lawyers bills and he refuses to pay his share
How do I get this vile man out of my life for good?
Frankly he and her make the perfect couple!!!!! I wish them well… she’s done me a HUGE favour!!!
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Horrific behaviour from my soon to be ex husband... and Im feeling broken
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nosha123 · 08/11/2019 15:38
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