Firstly I’d like to say I’m sorry if I shouldn’t be posting here as I am not a mother and I’m not married I’m 21 and I’m just looking for a bit of advice as I have no one I can talk to IRL.
For as long as I can remember my parents have always hated each other, my father took of his wedding ring approx 10 years and I have always known this.
Despite this I had an alright childhood, some days my parents pretended to get along taking us on holidays to Disney and even sometimes teasing each other as if they liked each other. Other days I would have to sit and listen to my parents telling me how much they hated each other. I’m not stupid I’ve seen my dad texting other women and knew exactly what it meant. I always knew it couldn’t go on forever
Two weeks ago we dropped my younger sister at university and that night my dad went out to ‘the pub’ and did not come home until lunchtime the next day having been drinking in town until he got blackout drunk, this resulted in their worst argument yet and my dad decided he had enough and it was over but because my mum won’t agree to a divorce he is going down the two years separation route while living in the same house.
It’s awful. No contact between each other, eating and cooking separate meals etc but because I’m trying to keep the peace it means I’m either eating two meals a night or my mums upset with me for talking to my dad while I have dinner with him because she won’t eat because shes so ‘embarrassed’ about the situation There’s certainly point scoring going on too with my mum who thinks that telling me my dads slept with prostitites will make me take ‘her side’ when really all it does is make me realise she doesn’t care about how I feel.
I’m so upset and I don’t know what to do or how to feel, not really asking for advice really just needed to tell someone what’s going on.
I guess the take away is your kids aren’t your best friends to talk to about the divorce they’re your kids and don’t need to hear all the details.
Sorry to anyone who read all this, it’s helped to write it all down, even in its vastly oversimplified manner.
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lookingforadvice11 · 25/09/2019 20:17
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