Hello,
Am currently navigating my separation from my DH and not sure if I am being super sensitive or this is normal?
DC was given a keep sake as a thank you gift by MIL but hasn’t been able to bring it home. I’m not sure why but DC has mentioned it three times now and I’m not sure what to say. DC wants to show it to me. I’ve said that daddy must have forgotten to pack in their things when coming home but I suspect that MIL has instructed it not to come home with DC.
For context a major part of the separation was my MIL interfering and doing something that I had specifically asked her not to. There is no love lost between us which has happened over time.
Currently I am very low contact with DH although he does have DC every other weekend and sometimes after school. The reason for the low contact is because he upsets me, causes me to second guess everything and blames me for the split. As above I see things quite differently. We are having counselling but more to communicate about DC and so, I thought, we could agree how to parent. I can’t ask DH about the gift as it will cause arguments but most importantly I do not want to seem petty.
But is this an indication of things to come? So any toys bought by DHs family will not be brought home here? Is this what I should expect and if so how do I explain to DC who is five and already has said numerous times that if I didn’t shout at daddy he would come home - daddy has firmly said on numerous occasions to me he wouldn’t be returning home ever (so can only assume this is what he is telling DC although I did shout a lot the night he left but DC was definitely asleep).
Thanks in advance for what probably seems so trivial but I want to try to help DC make sense of things and also manage my own feelings.
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Is this fairly normal or am I over thinking? Warning possibly quite petty
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FauxJoMalaux · 07/05/2019 22:01
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