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I'm going through divorce. I appy for divorce as his unreasonable behaviour.
17 years together and 12 year married.
We still under one roof but we are NOT taking at all.
At mediation we agreed 50/50 for our 11 year old daughter.
He earns more, I am part time since daughter was born and I come back to work. He holds all the money savings, pension, lump some.
My question is what I'm entitled to and how much will cost me to do / get so - solicitor bill? I'm reading up to 25k but is it worth to put yourself through borrowing and stress?
I don't understand how can it be - the law is there but I have to pay for it to use it - feel ill from it and worry
I'd say it depends on the size of the pot of money and assets. If it's significant, then legal representation is probably worth investing. If the pot is modest, then its a hard decision.
Ideally you should try mediation for finances too. But go prepared with what you need, and to some extent want. Do your research and make sure there's full disclosure of all finances. If you suspect he's hiding anything, then just get the solicitors involved.
You need to seek legal advice to get a basic understanding of how things look. You’ll be expected to maximise your own income which is likely to mean seeking full time employment especially as your child is 11.
No one on here will be able to tell you what you’re entitled to - other than a fair share
Thank you x
Part time - I do 29 hrs a week
All I want is fair share, no one should be without home... But I'm the one who have to pay / fight for it
Has he made you an offer or proposed anything in mediation?
Do you know the value of the house, pensions and savings?
Court can be 25k each which mostly all the solicitors & barristers costs. Court doesn't charge that much.
Half of the house after sale (what likely to be between 200-250k)
£400 a month till our daughter is 18
Nothing about pension
In these circumstances, an overall 50/50 split may be sensible. However, if going 50/50, that needs to include all relevant assets and that would include any pensions (and other savings). If he wants to keep the pension out of things, then you need to get more of the other assets (house equity) to get half.
Be careful that 50/50 care of child could undermine any attempt to get child maintenance, and that maintenance above child maintenance is rare (unless a very high earner).
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