So after struggling for the last year supporting my now ex through all his BS, (He was struggling with real life issues, but used them to hide an affair) We have parted ways when I found out what he was doing, and he is currently living with his other woman until he can find somewhere else.
My concern is that I don't know if I am coping with what has happened, or simply waiting for the reality to hit me. I am trying to be the bigger person, and put the kids needs before mine, I am not limiting his access or anything like that, I have no interest in being the bitter ex wife. I am broken at how our marriage has ended, but realistically I am ok with the fact that it has. The fact that he is going to someone else to help him through this while I am dealing with the fallout with the kids and what my next steps are is really sticking in my craw, but I am trying not to react now in a way that I am going to regret when I get through this.
I know he doesn't deserve me to be this reasonable, and I know I am well within my rights to just tell him to stay clear and give me space to process what has happened, but we have a younger son who I can't bring myself to do it too.
Am I being naive in thinking that I am dealing with this in a grown up manner, or am I just setting myself up for a fall further down the line?
It is really fresh as we only separated last week, I am not holding out hope of a reconciliation, I will be honest and say that I hope it doesn't work out with this other person, simply because I don't think they deserve to be happy this way, and I am struggling with the fact that at some point I am going to have to accept that she is going to be in my kids lives and have a relationship with them. Any advice from someone who has been through this would be great, I find it really hard to process things without knowing what could crop up, and I know I haven't even thought of half the things that are going to come up and send me reeling.
Thanks in advance
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My husband has left me
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kayaholly · 02/03/2019 13:31
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