Hi all. I've been separated from my H for 6 months although he only moved out 2 months ago. We were married 20 years and have two kids, 21 and 17.
It took me a long time to ask him to leave, but when he did, I felt nothing but relief. The atmosphere in my home is lighter, my kids are happier, I'm so much happier.
My problem is, all of a sudden he is full of regret. I get texts daily telling me how full of regret he is. He has started doing the things I've asked him to do for years such as get help for his drink problem, get counselling for his anger etc etc. He's doing all the right things.
I have to admit, there are times I miss him but when I ask myself why, I can't work it out. I was thoroughly miserable when we were together. I can't imagine ever kissing him again or having sex with him again. The attraction has gone and to a large extent, the love.
So why do I occasionally find myself just thinking " oh let him come home and stop this " . Is it because he's still manipulating me? Is it because I'm still a sap and he sees this as yet another hollow threat?
And more so what do I do? My life without him is good. I have energy, I laugh, sing, have fun with the kids. It's all good.
Do I just ignore him? Which is hard as we communicate regarding the children.
Any advice on how to stay strong and focused very welcome..
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wobblingweeble2 · 22/02/2019 07:59
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