Long story short:
I’ve not been happy in my relationship for 4 years due to partners infidelity. He says he’s been unfaithful because I withheld sex. Won’t let go of that. I say I didn’t want sex because he was unfaithful to me. He doesn’t accept that.
I’ve now told him I want him to leave and he’s surprised!
We have a DD who’s 6 and we haven’t told her anything yet. Because we both don’t want to upset her we are putting a plan together first and seeing a counsellor so we can be really clear with her about what’s happening.
I am finding it hard this weekend not to scream and shout at him and throw his belongings out of the window. I know that if I’m calm and outwardly reasonable it will be much better for my DD in the long term. But I’m completely raging.
What have people who tried to break up gracefully done to stay sane? When I’m with my friends and family they all say how well I’m handling this but when I am alone I’m a disaster.
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Am I being too reasonable?
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Sohardtochooseausername · 05/08/2018 10:03
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