caffcass

[monikagabi]

hi,
so I am divorced for 3 years now,separated for 5 and I have a new partner ,recently my ex took me to court because I have stopped him seeing children over night as kids been put to bed at 3 am ,not fed ,or washed,younger one was always weeing the bed when at dads etc....list could go on,so for all this he took me to court to get child arrangement order.caffcass is like social services but less serious(at least I think) well they got involved writing this report on dad and recommendations etc,thru court he was recommended to have supervised visits in contact centre .that was 2 weeks ago,today contacte centre got in touch about visits.they wanted me to bring children age 8 and 5 to contact centre after work at 6-6.30 for an hour and half visit.i said I cannot agree with that as children are up since 6.30 and in holiday club since 7.30 and the contact centre is 7 miles away from our home and about 20 miles away from my work. I as single mum cannot take the time of work every time they need me to bring children to contact centre thru the day and after work is too late for children to be traveling as far and by the time they will come home they will be exhausted.so that's what I said to caffcass officer that she should actually consider how children are going to be feeling,they are not willing to do weekends because they are fully booked and sundays they would have to get some extra staff in to supervise.to be honest its not my problem.....am I right or am I wrong here

[MrsBertBibby]

Is this supervised or supported contact? Who is meant to pay, and how much?

[Blossom5]

I have delt with both social services and cafcass actually I think cafcass are more influential in so far as they tell the court the decision to make. Social services were useless. I found cafcass better. But anything it seems can be taken out of context and the reports can read not the way you expect sometimes. X

[monikagabi]

MrsBertBibby Thu 02-Aug-18 23:11:05


Is this supervised or supported contact? Who is meant to pay, and how much?

this is supervised contact, and no one is paying as of yet …
contact centre was in touch and they now found a space thru the weekend,

blossom5
to be honest I found Cafcass better the 1st time around, now they seem to me useless. Because I have stopped the contact with father for a reason and they want to reinstate contact.
I know it is important to have 2nd parent involved etc, but the guy is nothing but trouble I have gave him chance after chance to be in kids lives and he never cared to fix anything, I have offered alternatives and I have offered solutions when he couldn't come up with anything, he explained to me that if he cant have kids all the time we will go to court, so I have received the copy of application and then I stopped him seeing kids altogether...when I spoke to Cafcass they didn't seem to listen at all....I mean how many chances the one needs to have till kids are going to be seriously injured? Or dead?