My marriage is at breaking point due to my husband's EA, bullying, shouting and financial abuse.
The thing that is stopping me ending things is the fear that he would get 50/50 care of the children. I am a sahm and do 99% of things with them compared to his 1%. I do the school runs, make sure they are fed, clothed, bathed, help with homework, get up with them at night, take them to school events, parties, trips out etc. He has a poor relationship with them a lot of the time and can't seem to cope with family life (doesn't like the noise, mess, financial strains and particularly dislikes that the kids have their own opinions). They are frequently in tears or telling me they don't think daddy loves them because he shouts so much, is rude to them etc. I've tried talking to him about it but he refuses and just tells me no one listens to him and it's my fault he shouts. He is impossible to communicate with and completley unwilling to discuss any aspects of parenting.
I would expect him to ask for 50/50 care if I ended things (not because he wanted the time with them but as another control for him) but given the EA and bullying the kids have experienced I think this would be terrible for them. Is 50/50 really the usual nowadays and would emotional abuse be a valid reason to not want 50/50 care, given that it is so hard to prove. I think if we split, him having EOW with extra time in school holidays would work well for everyone but I don't think he'd agree to it. How much weight does EA have as it's not something I can really prove is it?
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Child contact split when there has been emotional abuse
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NeedSleepNow · 20/06/2018 10:39
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