Feeling so down...and this is just the beginning!

[Lurkeress]

I initiated the divorce from my husband 3 months ago. Tomorrow is the first hearing. I have a DS who is quite young and lives with me. Throughout my 7 yr marriage I have worked constantly while my x has been in and out of work.

He’s currently out of work, I’m working full time. I have to pay privately for legal fees (I earn peanuts but just enough the threshold) while he’s getting legal aid. In the past 4 months he has only asked to see my son twice. He has decided to go full pelt and make this process as hard as possible. I’m just so exhausted, skint and down. Tomorrow is the first day, there’s another hearing (child welfare hearing) next week. I found out today my x is planning to push for financial provision from me too!

When does it get easier? I have so many issues I’m trying to deal with in one go, as well as keep a roof over mine and DS head. I’m exhausted

[JooMooMies]

Hi, not sure what to say which will help but just wanted to offer a (virtual) hug! Have you anyone you can talk to which might help share the load? X

[goldiehawn1]

Oh me too. It's hard to see the end when you are just at the beginning. But things should move quite quickly for you now. Stay strong. You have all of us here on MN to support you. Keep us posted so we know you are ok xx

[samesh1tdifferentday]

I feel for you my husband divorced me for unreasonable behaviour after I had tried through counselling to save our marriage for 2 years, tried to get me out of our home whilst I had no earning potential I had to leave uni due to stress and he now insists on having the children 50% of the time (4dcs) I miss them sooo much but I'm convinced that this was the last way to hurt me.
I really don't know what to say except that I hope for your sake it moves quickly.
People don't realise the damage of living life bitter and angry. Stay strong definitely seek some counselling if possible it helps x