Hi
I'm hoping I might be able to get some assistance.
We have been married for 10 years with two children one at school one young one. I am and have always been the main breadwinner and have a stressful full time job. We've been having issues for years but I have kept going due to the children. DH got a full time job last year and I was delighted thinking that our finances would improve. I have lots of debt. DH pays for nursery fees and that's it. I pay for everything else rent, bills, debt repayments. I recently found a payslip of his and was devastated that whilst I am struggling to manage everything he is left with a significant amount each month and is not offering to help repay any debt etc.
It's all come to a head and we agree it needs to end.
I don't know how I could keep my job going on my own. I won't be able to afford nursery fees and have no family to help out with childcare. I work shifts so normally one of us would do drop off and pick up. Have other families managed this? Do you just carry on but in different houses? If I left my job for a more flexible job closer to home I would not be able to manage my out goings, I nearly scrape through as it is. I'm at a complete loss as to how to do this and this is one of the reasons it's taken so long to get to this stage. Anyone gone through something similar or any suggestions would be greatly appreciated.
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frenchfries22 · 01/02/2018 10:18
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