Basically I've been with my DH for 8 years, married for 4. We have one beautiful daughter a d I'm currently 6 months pregnant with our son.
Things haven't been great the last few months, not unbearable just not good. I've been nagging, he's bone idle, we argue about money.... etc etc. But I put a lot of it down to hormones, the usual ups and downs of a relationship and the fact that we have had a pretty shit year with the collapse of DH's business.
Anyway after what started as just a normal argument last week escalated beyond belief to the point where he is now saying he's been unhappy for a long time. Came as a massive shock. Our pregnancy was planned, how could you plan that if you're not happy with the person you're planning it with.
We saw a counsellor on Tuesday which did nothing to help salvage things because he is so resolute in his decision.
I just can't see how he can give up on his family so quickly. Or why he couldn't have said something before he built it into such a massive thing.
I feel so betrayed. Scared for the future. Let down. And shocked at his seemingly complete disregard for our children. I cannot manage two on my own. At least not initially! My daughter has only just turned 1 herself.
I have no idea what to do for the best. He says he'll stay and support us but doesn't want the relationship side of things. I'm not sure I can continue like this, yet I'm not sure I can do it without him.
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Seekingmiracles · 07/12/2017 17:50
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