Ok need real life experience of how you deal/dealt with this please.
The situation is have been split from ex dh 5-6 years - all have moved on no issues.
The issue has always been dh treats ds like an optional extra - we have had set week nights and weekends in place and over past 2 years since ex met his new partner and her kids and moved he has knocked his weeknights down to none as his excuse was the 40 min round trip was getting too much.
He then made his son give up a weekend sport because he couldn’t commit his weekend time to it for ds.
He agrees to cover a few days in summer holidays ( my parents/myself An partner cover rest) then let’s us down by not fulfilling .
His son had operation 6 weeks ago he texted me to see if had gone to theatre- then didn’t phone/check on his son till he collected him following weekend(ds has a phone he can call him on or text) only time he calls or texts is when he’s telling him he’s not turning up due to late at work or whatever.
He’s meant to turn up last night to collect and 20 mins before tells us “stuck at work won’t be collecting”.
So my question or advice needed is this-
I’ve come to accept he will never fulfill any promises made and even ds is realising too but how do you stop getting annoyed by this- some have tried to advise take all plans with pinch of salt- and I do but I can’t stop the angry feeling- how do I stop that when it happens ?
Once when I had to cancel evening plans I had made he was “well you have parental responsibility so your problem” grrrrrr help
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Gohackyourself · 25/10/2017 19:14
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