we separated 2 years ago. It was my decision, we were miserable, sniping at each other all the time. We lived in a permanent undercurrent of tension largely through my lack of wish to have sex. I felt we owed it to the children not to think this was a healthy model on which to build their future relationships.
I kept the house and paid him my life savings to buy him out and set up on his own. I didn't want to pursue him for money preferring to maintain a relatively amicable relationship . He agreed to claim child benefit and pay this to me for supporting the kids, £130 per month total.
We have joint access with the kids, alternate weekends and 2 days in the week. I buy all clothes, uniform, shoes haircuts, clubs etc.
He's a brilliant Dad and I don't want to kill our friendly relationship but I'm struggling financially.
He refused to pay any contribution to the uniform bill of £300 saying the usual £130 is sufficient and the fact I earn (slightly) more means I should take it on the chin. The bottom line is he contributes nothing out of his own pocket for the kids and lives mortgage free due to my life savings.
lt feels like I'm being taken advantage of but I don't want to go legal and destroy the whole goodwill we've worked hard to establish. Am I entitled to anything more or am I just bitter because he lives mortgage free and I struggle?
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Janyliz · 05/09/2017 20:12
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