Hello netters I'm just wondering if anybody out there has been through a break up while pregnant? I'm forty and have a two year old and my partner and I have been having a very difficult year, arguments and power struggles etc. We've been together for a long time, 17 years, and we've always had our ups and downs. I guess I've always been a bit ambivalent but tried to avoid conflict and he has sensed this and been passive aggressive at times. Anyway the upshot is that we've been struggling to adapt to parenthood and recently split but then got back on rather fragile terms but then I got pregnant again unexpectedly. The relationship has broken down again now to such an extent that he's taken himself off to another room for several weeks. It's really stressful with a pregnancy and I'm still working but going on maternity soon. I've tried to get things back to normal but he wants me to accept that there is a power imbalance in our relationship and treat him with more respect. I feel really vulnerable accepting this in the middle of a pregnancy although there is some truth in it. He's still helping out with our son and as long as I don't get too upset about the lack of emotional support superficially we get on ok. His feelings for me have definitely changed though and I'm finding it really hard to keep my cool and not get al heavy with him. I was just wondering if any others had similar experiences and what my options might be. I'm forty so no spring chicken! I'm seeing a counsellor at the moment to sort out my feelings and to figure out how I got into this mess.
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