Hi All, I'm Alan, I decided to leave my partner for several reasons I won't go into, but it's wasn't just one thing, we have two kids aged 17 and 14, they are both fine with the separation. I felt I was being an upstanding guy, when I announced that I would apply for a council property and leave her and the kids in the house for the time being. I know neither of us can force a sale until the kids finish education, so I'm happy to leave things as they are.
Inside a week, I was given a bungalow,which didn't need much decorating and I could more or less more straight in. A quick shopping trip, to the local charity store, saw me come home with a bed, wardrobe, cooker, fridge freezer, settee and chair and a few more bits. I didn't have much money as my ex was very good at spending when we had and more, getting us into debt every week. So, with what I had, I managed to set myself up with the basics.
When I left the house after I'd made several trips in the car to remove clothing and the essentials I needed (but I still have a lot of stuff there), I never checked my jacket pockets, the keys for our house were in the pocket, when I got to my new place and took my stuff in, I checked my pockets and she'd taken my keys. I went round and tried the door, it was looked, I knocked and she answered the door, so I asked her were my keys were, she told me she didn't know, but I knew better, she claims I must have lost them, yeah, right. She informed me that anytime I wanted anything else from the house, I had to call first and if her mother was visiting, I wasn't allowed in! I replied, "this is my house as well as yours and if I want to be in, I will get in", her rely was, "Wanna bet?".
I've been round on several occasions to collect more of my stiff and she's either out or has the door locked so I can get in and she's staying upstairs. She won't give me a set of keys to get in my own house or a set of keys to get in the garage to get my bikes or the shed to remove some other items.
I know she has my keys, as when I've looked through the window, I can see them on the mantelpiece. She hasn't spoken to me in almost 4 weeks, will not answer the phone and now I don't know what to do.
In February 2016, I paid to have new windows and doors installed, I wonder how she would feel if I got my mate (who installed them and has given me a receipt), to go and remove the double glazing units, yes, it's a knee jerk reaction, but, it was I who paid for them, it would be a joy as far as I'm concerned to see the look on her face.
Yes, I agree it might seem a childish resort to take, but I'm getting nowhere with her, I had an almost fatal seizure in October (that my neurologist and hypnotherapist has told me, is more or less because of her behaviour towards me). I've had several months of torment, stress, many hospital and doctors appointments, many changes in medication and hours spent going over events time and time again, wondering why she's turned nasty and become so bitter, I've noticed she's changing into her mother, more and more, every time I see her.
I've been very good to her and the kids and taken her mother to more medical appointments than I can remember, helped family out many times, done way more than my share of work in the house on top of working a 11-12 hour day.
Maybe I should have been more authoritative earlier on in the relationship and curtailed her spending, but I reckon she would just have put everything on a credit card and left us in more debt.
Any suggestions please, I have several thousand pounds worth of personal items in the house and I do not want her selling them.
What I've told you, is just the tip of the iceberg, it would take me days to list all the things she's done.
Alan.
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