Ex took New Partner on 10 day holiday abroad with our daughter never told me ...

[skye33]

AIBU to be angry that my ex took his new DP on 10 day holiday abroad and didn't tell me or our DD who is 5 that she'd be coming. He shared a room and bed with New DP and had our daughter in a adjoining bedroom on her own. DD had no idea and I had no idea this was happening and on top of that she d only met her once as Daddy friend ?? Think I should have been told at least ? Plus he won't give me flight info or hotel name when I ask. Feeling really fed up 😟

[MrsBertBibby]

Yes, that's a really dickish move. But did your daughter have a good time?

[WhiskyTangoFoxtrot]

Yes it's dickish.

But no matter how wrong it is to introduce new partners precipitately, you cannot prevent the other parent doing that, nor from exercising their right to take their DC on holiday, and you aren't entitled to have inform on where they are staying etc.

So don't fight battles you cannot win.

Concentrate on your DD. Did she have a good time?

[MrsBertBibby]

I disagree about travel information. Make it a condition of consent next time. It is not unreasonable to want to know where your child is going.

[SexTrainGlue]

He doesn't necessarily require her consent for a family holiday of up to 14 days (depends on the terms of the child arrangement order).

[skye33]

Yes I think I have a right to know where they staying and flights especially in today's climate. I know he can do what he wants and can take his partner on holiday with our daughter without telling me just pisssed off at him for making her be the one to tell me over FaceTime from
The holiday. She did seem to have a good time I haven't been able to talk to her apart from once picking her up today. Think she sounded surprised Daddy's friend was there and think she probably just disappointed she didn't have Daddy to herself but maybe not and maybe she had a great time with his new GF I hope so as as hard as it is to stomach the main thing is that DD Happy and enjoyed it. Just think moving forward it was a pretty lame and shitty way of him approaching it if she going to be Abi step mother essentially.

[donners312]

it's not true that he didn't need your permission to take DD out of the jurisdiction.

He needed your permission unless he has a court order to the contrary?

I have been to court numerous times over this matter in reverse (my ex refused permission for me to take DC to France I needed a court order to take them.) That said you cannot reasonably refuse.

However refusing to give you flight details and an address would be a reasonable reason to refuse.

I would go and see a solicitor about this TBH to protect DD from this happening again - what a TWAT!!

[Hardym]

I think I'd be more concerned about your daughter being in a separate room at only 5 years of age... hope the door was left open between the rooms etc.. those are the questions I'd be asking