Now starting divorce process with STBEXH, am facing quite a dilemma.
To cut a very long story short (and reduce chances of me being outed) I have the option to do as my solicitor is advising me which will mean plunging Ex into a fair amount of financial difficulty in the short term - but will enable me to be more financially secure for the future - or, be reasonable and nice but I will come out of this worse off and potentially risk him screwing me over.l on top of that.
Which would you do? Difficult to answer without the full details I appreciate but they would be extremely identifying. I feel that going with the option that is in my benefit would be going against everything we agreed during our marriage. However, on the other hand, we are divorcing due to his adultery so I don't feel I really owe him any favours as such
It will make things very difficult between us if I go for this option, but we can't stand to be around each other anyway.
I need to decide quite quickly, as in next few days so any advice would be appreciated! It just feels wrong, as though it goes against all my moral standing. However, I have been a SAHM for our whole (very long, 4 DCs) marriage so am in a very precarious position with regards to my future security.
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Be reasonable and keep things amicable even if it means I'll be losing out?
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CarrieMayBe · 18/03/2017 12:11
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