Greetings! Brand new to MN. Start of my 'new' divorced life, and I simply don't know what I'm to do with myself...
I was married for 10 years, separated for almost two, newly divorced and the agreement is now in place. My Ex has the DC equal time. I didn't want to agree to equal time as I always did the majority of the childcare. His live never revolved around the children, mine did. But he was insistent and I didn't want to go to court. Frankly, I thought he would change his mind as he has a demanding job and he's not patient with the children's activities.
We are now 3 weeks in and it seems that it is all going smoothly. I know I should be pleased, but I can't help but feel upset a bit - how is he able to manage? If he was so bloody good at childcare then why didn't he help out more during our marriage and perhaps we could have given it a go!? More than anything, I feel rather lost. I don't know what to do with all this time....
Yes, I know I should throw myself in activities and stay busy, but I can barely manage to get out of bed in the morning and I am just counting the moments until I see the children again. I am kicking myself at agreeing equal time, but everyone kept telling me it was the best thing for the children.
It's early one and I'm sure it will get better, but right now I am feeling quite low and could use some sage advice.
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Life after divorce - what do I do with all this time??
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Pembroker · 18/01/2017 01:24
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