My FDR hearing is scheduled for mid-August, I had a first hearing in March, and exH basically lied his way through it.
His questionnaire was badly answered with inconsistencies and outright lies, but my sol has advised us not to chase up on too many of these in the interest of proportionality (i.e. what I get might not be as much as what I have to spend in legal fees).
He has been siphoning money off to his family and friends, and they have now backed him up with narratives that say things like 'ExH owed me £100,000 as I lent it to him. I have no details on why I lent him this money but I now need it back urgently for my children's education'
None of it makes any sense. Assets are valued by my sol as approx approx £900,000 - however as I moved out of the marital home and now live in London with my parents, I need a sizeable chunk of that to be able to house my children. Moving back near my ExH is not an option because of domestic violence.
I am realyl scared about what happens at the next hearing. My sols have asked for the hearing to be extended from 30 mins to 2h, and have requested a senior (circuit) judge for the hearing as they deem this to be a complex case, due to H's inconsistent evidence throughout.
I can't see exH coming up with a sensible offer as he tried to offer me £250,000 at the outset, and sees all of the money earned as his. He is evading CMS payments also, he pays short every month because he says he can't afford it, but he has a high-earning job (self-employed).
I have spent approx £20K on costs so far. My solicitors have estimated that it will cost approx £100,000 more to get to final hearing, as we will have to have other people joined to proceedings, and will need preliminary hearings to ascertain true value of assets he has disposed of. So I'm now under pressure to settle at the FDR, as I don't want another year of this. I can borrow the money from family but don't really want to do this either. I have 3 young children and it's not fair on them as we are living in cramped conditions at the moment.
Sol did warn me that I can't expect the judge to be my knight in shining armour - s/he will simply look at the offers made and say whether or not they are reasonable. ExH's conduct will not be called into question, or my/childrens needs further examined until we get to final hearing.
I'm feeling scared, and my stomach is in knots about this already. It's just over 3 weeks away. Can anyone talk me through what to expect on the day?
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Can anyone talk me through their 2nd financial hearing (FDR)? I have mine next month and I am scared..
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Namechanger2015 · 25/07/2016 13:30
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