Experiences of separated parenting

[Swinney09]

My husband and I will be separating shortly. We have a daughter 6 and son 4. My daughter has a number of SEN including aniexty and struggling with change. My son is very sensitive and emotional. My husband works form home so they are used to seeing lots of him after school or nursery. Does anyone have any positive experiences on how best to provide lots of time with both parents but stability in the arrangements? Your experiences very welcome.

[BeccaMumsnet]

Hi Swinney09 - we're going to move this over to our Divorce/Separation topic.

You could also try looking at our Special Needs Chat topic as there may be posters in there as well who can offer some advice.

Best wishes

[Fourormore]

My eldest has SEN, we separated when he was 4. We have a 50:50 arrangement which has been overall very good. There have been blips during periods of change but that's to be expected.

We split it so one parent does Sun, Mon, Tue night and one does Wed, Thur, Fri night and we alternate the weekends.

[Minime85]

If you can set up a regular routine of days. Both being consistent with rules and boundaries but that is a tricky one. Access to both parents at any time if child asks like make a phone call or face time. Photo of the other parent in the bedrooms of each house. Even just in front of kids being united in their care, attending parents evening together etc. Not forcing them to suddenly be able to accept the change and if necessary building up to them staying over at other parent house. Exh and I do all of this except routine because of his job. Keep DCs at front of it all and that helps. I had a book called mum and dad glue which was good. My dcs were 6 and 8