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Divorce/separation

Want divorce- but feeling weird. Help needed.

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Blink191984 · 01/03/2016 22:51

Since last 2 years, nothing is going right. I left the "home" 4 times. But returned back due to different reasons. 6 months back Consulted a lawyer too but then gave up the idea.
Currently, we are AGAIN not staying together. He is dropping the kids in the morning. And i am picking them up and then take them to "home" for their bath, homework, n dinner. And by then he comes and i leave.
I am currently staying at my parents house nearby. And finally planning to proceed to the court. But i am extremely worried about children time sharing. Almost having a black out. The only thing i know is that we cannot live together.
What should i do ? Its a weird feeling and its killing me.

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RandomMess · 01/03/2016 22:53

All I can say is that you are in a very very vulnerable position as on paper as he has them overnight he is the primary carer...

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tbtc20 · 02/03/2016 06:24

Surely random that would depend on the reason the OP is leaving the home.
Perhaps she fears for her own mental or physical well-being if she stays there.

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Lonecatwithkitten · 02/03/2016 07:46

Random has a value point when dealing with child arrangements courts try to maintain the status quo so if you H is looking after them overnight his team could argue that he is the primary care giver.
Additionally it could be argued by his team, that as the OP is living with her parents (sleeping at their house) her housing needs are less and he could end up with bigger financial share.
Get really good legal advice ASAP to sort out the way forward for you and your situation.