Ok basic background. Last year my wife had an affair and left me for this man. We have a 4 year old girl and a 10 month old boy. I raise the kids full time and she lives two hours drive way with this man in the towns he grew up in and where her family live . My concern is with this man being around my kids. These are the reasons why:
He is an ex who originally dated her when she was 17 and he was in his 30’s. Now to me there is something worrying about a 30 year old man who wants to date a girl who has barely just finished school. Especially when the girl is your step cousin.
She told me that he used to smoke a lot of cannabis and this has resulted in his having issues with paranoia. She says he doesn’t do it anymore but talking to his family he has been see collecting little packets from other people know in the area for this stuff.
She said he used to be violent towards her.
Her family are also very concerned about him being near the kids. This concerns me a lot considering they are this man’s family too and are the best people to know what he is like and what is going on up there.
The current situation is that the kids stay at their grandparent’s house when they go up to say with my ex. The trouble is my ex has started to say she wants her time alone with them at her (the other man) house. She is there mum and I want her to have quality time with them. My problem is I am not happy for the potential of my kids being home alone with this man. Are my concerns valid or am I over reacting?
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1DAD2KIDS · 16/02/2016 13:15
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