(Under Scottish Law for clarification)
Abusive and manipulative STBXH is planning to take our DC on holiday (never managed to arrange so much as a day trip by himself during the long marriage but that's by the by). We only communicate by email as I am NC with him. I only found out about the holiday and the location through DCs. Ex himself has not made me aware of any details.
We have been separated for over a year in which time he has changed jobs to work abroad for weeks on end. I therefore have our DC for the majority of the time so I'm not opposed to a holiday for them and a break for me per se.
Ex sought a Court order for fixed contact (prior to this contact was at his request and 99 times out of 100 I would facilitate this - only said no if it clashed with already arranged plans for DCs, Birthday Parties, clubs they attended etc.) Contact is now the standard EOW and one midweek after school when he is in this country and is far less than he had before. This order was sought to suit him, and his family, not DCs.
Ex was sexually abused as a child by a close relative. While Ex denied this in Court, the Judge thankfully saw fit to rule that our DC were to have no contact with this relative. The relative lives in England, a driving journey of over six hours so to date this no contact has either been explained away by Ex or avoided due to his being abroad much of the time.
The location of holiday is approximately a one hour drive from abusive relative.
My concerns are that Ex will allow contact between his relative and our DCs. He will plead ignorance if challenged about this by me. I have not given 'permission' for him to take our DCs to another (legally speaking) country as he has not informed me personally of the location or even dates thus making it harder for me to raise my concerns or object.
Is the current Court Order even enforceable in England? What can I do to ensure that our DCs are safe?
I no longer have any Legal representation as Ex has run through all my funds with innumerable petty letters from his Lawyer and Court Hearings.
Any advice or guidance gratefully received.
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SafetyStirrups · 29/07/2015 21:41
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