My H moved out last Monday. He agreed to go to give me some space etc. He came back to see the kids midweek and then had them for the weekend. By the end of the week the penny was starting to drop as to what this meant and the phone calls and texts started. He dropped the girls back yesterday evening and I'd said that we could have a talk then as I'm trying to be reasonable and don't want to rock the boat.
So we talked and it basically turns into a big counselling session with me supporting him and having to advise him how to sort himself out. Whilst I really do appreciate that things are hard for him - he's moved out so not seeing the girls, living out of a suitcase etc, I also don't see why I am the shoulder to cry on. One of the major problems during our marriage was how he always put is friends before me. I ask myself where are they now and why isn't he turning to them instead of laying all this on me.
It wasn't all one sided. I did tell him a few home truths and I certainly have not given him any reason for false hope.
The point of the post is how to manage this. When I don't see him I feel ok with my decision and sure that it's the right thing but then after this I start to question all the pain and hurt I am causing. It makes it hard to stick to my guns and feel confident that I'm doing the right thing.
Help / advise please??
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Emotions making me question whether I'm diong the right thing. How to manage exH?
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lifebeginsat42 · 13/07/2015 09:53
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